Part 2 - how to climb over the ‘wall of awful’
Last week I posted about the neurodivergent ‘wall of awful’.
This has come up a number of times with clients this week.
I wanted to post a strategy to help with this.
The ladder!
What this does:
It helps to validate there is a wall there in the first place
Allows the emotion it brings
Helps you to know there is a way forwards and the steps to take
Gives time to consider what you want to find on the other side and the dopamine release.
Visualisation can be really helpful with a brain that is imaginative, so let’s put it to good use.
Imagine the wall - not so cool (but doing some work on this helps) - imagine the ladder - cooler!
What is the first rung on the ladder for you?
Maybe it is doing a brain dump of the task or event ahead
Next rung
There will be subsections of each task - write these out too
Next rung
In a different colour highlight the most important first steps
Next rung
Add timescales - you may need another person to help due to our time blindness!
Next rung
What can you start with and when?
What is over the other side of the wall?
How will you feel? What difference will that make to your life? Who would you like communicate this process to and how?
With practice we can reduce the height of the wall, and also develop our confidence in finding the ladder and climbing over it.
Being neurodivergent isn’t about what we can’t do, it is about finding a solution that is right for us, a different one!!
#adhd #autism #neurodivergent #audhd
